Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Procrastination: America's favorite pastime.

It is no secret that it takes extremely little to stress me out. I get stressed easily and quickly and I don't even try to hide it. Call it a character flaw. Sometimes I get so stressed out I want to cry, sometimes (most of the time) I just get stressed out and eat. Lately, I live in a constant state of stress, thank you Greek Sing. It is only Tuesday and I am already worn out and couldn't be more ready for Friday.

What is causing my stress, you ask? Well, for starters, Greek Sing. From now until April 14, Greek Sing will stress me out. All day, every day. I love it, I do, but at the same time, I hate it.

This week, I happen to have three tests, yes, that's right, three. So obviously I have been studying my butt off all day long, wrong. Today I went into the chapter room at 1p.m., at 3p.m. I realized I had done absolutely nothing. For two hours I sat and did everything but study. If my tests were on Facebook, I would pass with flying colors. I discovered today that you can play games on Facebook, who knew? This probably wasn't a good discovery seeing as I spent more time playing bejeweled than learning biology. Whoops.

I realized today, this is why I make bad grades. (Light Bulb.) I set on my butt and do nothing, but then turn around and say oh yeah, I studied for like five hours! Wrong. I played on Facebook for four hours, studied for one. Same thing (not.)

Why do we procrastinate? (BTW -by the way, come on, 2010, hello- I am writing this as I should be studying, i.e., procrastination.) We know we have stuff to do, so why not just do it? Sure, studying sucks now, but when I get my grade back, chances are I am going to wish I had studied more. I have been so stressed out this week because I have three tests, ah so scary! But in reality, I have barely prepared for them. I have pretended to prepare for them (exhausting,) but I haven't really. So I am really only adding to my stress level by procrastinating. It is now the night before 2/3 of my tests and I am extremely stressed out over realizing I haven't studied nearly enough, (oops.)

Procrastination is a part of college. People have done it for years and will continue for many years to come. But I am choosing right now to be productive. No more Facebook games, no more pretending to study and no more staring at the pages waiting for the information to sink into my brain. It is time to get down to business. (Let's see how long this lasts.)

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Take the good with the bad.

Since putting myself into a leadership position I have learned more than most may learn in a year. I have probably aged 10 years, pulled a million hairs out of my head, lost many hours of sleep and said more curse words than usual, but I wouldn't trade this experience for anything. I have learned that with all the bad, there is always something good, you just have to see it.

At first, whenever I head negative feedback, I freaked out. I let it get to me; I cried, wanted to quit, called everyone I knew for reassurance, all the typical girl things. Soon I realized I was acting like a child, and if I wanted to be a good leader, I had to knock it off. I realized I was letting all the bad out way the good, which is backwards form how it should be. Whenever I received positive feedback, I forgot, but when I received negative feedback, I dwelled on it. I was driving myself crazy letting people's words affect me. Unfortunately it took a really big blow to my ego to finally make me step back and take a good look at the whole picture. I realized that with everything negative I heard, I also heard five positive things. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know the five is greater than one, so why focus all my attention on to the one? Because no one wants to be disliked, I want everyone to like me, I was everyone to think I am doing an excellent job, but that's not life. Not everyone will always like you or approve of the job you are doing. I realized that when I got negative feedback I just needed to say OK, but when I got positive feedback, I needed to listen.

I always say the proof is in the puddin', and it is so true. My performance as a leader will show in time, until then I just have to let the negativity roll off my shoulders and pay no attention to it. The most important lesson I have learned through this experience is that you need friends you can trust. I would be lost if I didn't have friends to give me feedback that I trusted. It is always good to hear feedback, you just can't listen to feedback of people who are just angry. Angry people are only hurting themselves by being angry. The best thing is to not let other people's bitterness affect you. When there is a choice of listening to bad and listening to good, always go with good.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Nice girls finish last.

If you have a pulse, then you have at least heard about the disaster known as The Bachelor. I have been a Bachelor fan since the beginning. I was all over Trista and Ryan's relationship ( I picked him from the start!) As we all know, I am a huge fan of love, so a show whose main goal is to help singles find love, I'm all over it! Unfortunately, the only problem with this show is that I am not allowed to pick who gets a rose. If I were able to decide, there would be many more bachelor marriages happening! So like I said, if you have a pulse, you have heard about the Tenley vs. Vienna saga. If you haven't, then you really need to get out more often. A quick re-cap: There was Tenley, America's Sweetheart, the nicest, classiest, sweetest girl you have even seen. She pretty much fell out of a Disney movie. I couldn't imagine a more perfect wife, mom, friend, etc. Then you have Vienna. 23 year old Florida girl with an extremely sketchy past that includes stripping and a 3 week marriage. Sounds like a total winner, right? Honestly, there was no comparison between the two. But, in true guy fashion, Jake (The Bachelor, for those of you who live in 1980,) chose Vienna. It was literally the choice heard 'round the world because in that moment, every girl in the world screamed in agony.

While watching this train wreck of a Bachelor finale, I thought to myself, "Jake just proved what we all know, Nice girls always finish last." As we watched Tenley drive away, STILL being too nice and keeping her composure like a true lady, we all knew that the wrong girl had been chosen. Here Tenley was, the nicest girl in the world, heart broken. We all know Jake picked Vienna because she screams "SEX." Jack said many times he had a "natural physical connection" with Vienna, while he was worried about the "lack" of physical connection with Ten-Ten. We all know this means that Tenley was a lady and wouldn't throw herself at him, which is apparently what he wanted.

So why is this, that nice girls finish last? Or do they? Maybe we just think of it as "last place" because it is the here and now. All humans want instant gratification, we are extremely selfish. Later is never good enough and waiting is never an option. As a single girl, I despise when people say, "he's out there!" OK, how about you go "out there" and bring him to me, now. We see today as finishing last. Tenley didn't find love today, so she "lost." But 5 years from now, Vienna and Jack could be divorce, and Tenley could be happily married to the guy of her dreams, who finished last this time? We look at single girls and feel pity for them, which as a single girl there is NOTHING worse than this. We aren't finishing last because we aren't in a relationship at the moment, we just aren't finished running the race yet.

I would be lying if I said I was completely content with being single and watching girls around me find love. But I just know that I am not losing anything by being single. I am just not there yet. My day will come, I am not finishing last, or in any place for that matter. I am just now starting the race.