Cupcakes.

If you know me, you know that I have an unhealthy affinity for cupcakes. More specifically, vanilla cupcakes with buttercream icing. Yum. I truly believe that a cupcake is the greatest medicine and that it could probably cure cancer. (OK, maybe not, but you get the idea.)

Ironically enough, on my first date with my love, I realized that the restaurant we were at gave you a free cupcake for your birthday. So I did what any other normal, mature 20-something girl would do... I completely lied and told them it was my birthday (it wasn't.) We laugh about that now because it was the first sign he got of just how obsessed with cupcakes I am.

I have a soft spot for single girls. Hard to believe that just one year ago I was a bitter single girl. And as a former single girl, I know the last thing single girls want to hear from me is, "Don't worry, you'll find someone!" So I won't do it.

But, you should know that while single, I literally read every book out there about how to find a man. Literally. You name it, I read it. And of course, they all promised to help me find true love, they didn't. But they did all offer the same advice that I hate to admit is actually really good.

Single girls, write this down: You must be happy with yourself before someone else can be happy with you.

Allow me to illustrate.
I love cupcakes, but I love the icing more. Nothing makes me happier than good buttercream icing, preferably pink. Even though I love the icing, I still eat the actual cake part. The icing is so sweet that if I ate just icing, I would get sick. But eating it with the cake is perfection.

Think of a boyfriend as the icing. It looks pretty dang good sitting in the bowl, but without the cake, it's just icing. It's still wonderful, but it isn't complete, it isn't right.

You have to be the cake. You are always good. Cake is good with or without icing. If you are a confidant, strong women, you don't need icing to make you fabulous. But who wants a cupcake without icing?

The biggest mistake girls make is to think that a boyfriend will solve all of your problems. Believe me, SO not the case. They bring problems of their own (that's another story.) You be you, and be the best you that you can be. Then you will find the icing to make you a fabulous cupcake.